Mitigating back-to-school child custody conflicts

Mitigating back-to-school child custody conflicts

Child custody issues can be an arduous part of any divorce. However, there are steps parents can take to reduce potential conflicts that can arise during the upcoming school year.

Child custody issues can be an arduous part of any divorce, contested or uncontested. And, for parents with school-aged kids who have just returned to start a new year, it can be even more difficult. Some experts even argue that stress levels of divorced parents elevate when their children return to school.

However, there are steps parents can take to reduce potential conflicts that can arise during the upcoming school year.

Maintain a simple, recurring schedule

A divorce decree often stipulates specific arrangements for children of a divorce. Where the children will reside during nights, weekends, and holidays throughout the year, for instance, are often outlined in detail in many separation agreements or parenting plans.

However, when a new school-year starts, there can be unforeseen circumstances not planned for in an original divorce agreement. Children often participate in different extracurricular activities from year-to-year. There may also be varying evening events or different bus routes that can throw a wrench into a solid schedule.

However, when altering arrangements as a result of unexpected situations, parents are encouraged to work out a simple and consistent plan. And they should maintain such a plan throughout the year.

Keeping an agreement that is as regular and predictable as possible can help to mitigate confusion or any difficult adjustments kids of all ages may experience when they return to school.

Plan ahead for expected events

Any new plans, however, should be done ahead of time. Parents should create plans that reflect upcoming school year events as early into the year as possible.

Whether it’s Thanksgiving travel plans this upcoming holiday season or different parent teacher conferences this year, parents should make an arrangement as soon as possible-even if the event doesn’t occur until next Spring.

Working out an arrangement for new activities or plans ahead of time can really help to mitigate potential arguments down the line between both parties and prepare children for what will occur.

Mitigating disruption of a divorce

For many kids, seeing their parents divorce and being forced to juggle two separate households is a difficult adjustment. However, parents can do their part to help soften the divergence and friction their children will likely experience.

Planning ahead for specific events and maintaining a stable and predictable lifestyle can mitigate this.

Parents who need help modifying a parenting plan should consult a family law attorney for assistance. Couples considering divorce are also encouraged to seek the help of a legal professional. A lawyer knowledgeable in the family law arena can explain the law and options available that best fit individual circumstances.

Keywords: divorce, child custody, modifications, back-to-school

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